Background of TELL YOUR STORY:
The purpose of this section of my blog is to foster a sense of community with people from all around the world. It’s a space where guests on my site can share their answers and unique perspectives to a couple of life’s important questions. By doing so, they share a piece of their personal story. My hope is that you, the reader, will find value in this community. Whatever stage of life you’re passing through, whatever is on your mind, whatever you may be stuck on, I hope you find some inspiration from the TELL YOUR STORY series. Happy reading!
Introducing today’s guest: Lidiya
What inspires you?
The first thing that comes to mind is the potential we all have.
In that, we’re equal. At any moment, we can take the decision to change our lives completely, to start a business, to stop tolerating things we shouldn’t, let go of the past and envision a future that’s better than anything we’ve ever had before.
I’ve known this my whole life, but I was mostly surrounded by people who stayed stuck, didn’t believe we can all change, and didn’t look for ways to grow or question their beliefs.
So I had to sort of ignore my environment and find my truths somewhere else. Reading self-improvement books and blogs helped me with that. I learned a lot, felt empowered, and knew that if other people changed their lives and designed them the way they wanted them to be (without following society’s expectations), I could do the same.
What excites you?
The fact that every new day is a chance to start over, opportunities are everywhere around us and at any moment, you can find that 1 great book, meet that 1 new person, come up with that 1 brilliant idea, or have that 1 deep realization that will change the course of your life.
What’s your personal philosophy?
1. What got you where you are today isn’t what will get you where you want to be (aka your dream life). You need a completely different approach, to go out of your comfort zone more times than you can count, and to love the journey itself (because it’s a lifelong adventure of learning, making mistakes and growing).
2. Fear might always be there, but that’s okay. The point is to take action despite of its presence. Soon you’ll learn to trust your ability to act, will be able to quiet the negative self-talk and be bold and unapologetic about what you truly want.
3. Whatever cards you’re dealt, you can play with them and become the best version of yourself.
You might be from a developing country, you might carry the burden of your family (the trauma and bad karma that’s been created for generations before you), you might meet people who deeply disappoint you, your first few business ideas might fail, you can often think that you simply don’t fit in this world or there’s nothing special about you or you can’t find your passion.
All these are outer factors and the moment you see them as your truths, you give your power to them. To take back your power, take full responsibility for the cards you’re dealt and know that the most successful people (the self-made success stories) probably had it worse than you in their childhood and later in life. But they chose to stop complaining and instead control their inner world, devote their life to personal growth, be grateful for the best and the worst, and know that life isn’t supposed to be filled only with positive emotions (the negative ones are there to teach us, to show us what pain is and to give us a chance to turn that pain into our biggest asset).
What advice would you give someone who is currently feeling lost or purposeless in life? What helps you or has helped you before in these situations?
If you’re feeling lost, congrats! You’re in a unique position and there are 2 ways this can go.
Of course, you can choose to become even more negative, focus on what’s not working and what you don’t have (and that will only attract more of it).
But there’s another way. You can identify what you don’t like about your life and try to figure out what previous decisions and choices led to that point.
You will quickly see how everything’s connected and how you chose to be where you are now. If you take responsibility for that, you can own your situation. You can also start seeing that it’s not just lack of things you have, there are also plenty of opportunities.
Once you empower yourself and take decisions from that place, you will notice you can come up with a plan on how to change your life. All you need to know is the very first step. Every next one will become clearer when the time is right.
When I was back in my home country and in university, I didn’t know what I wanted to do with my life but knew this just wasn’t it. I was sad, I was indulging in bad habits, I was craving a purpose.
Once I wrote down everything I didn’t like about my current life back then, I also decided which of these factors I want to remove and how.
A few things stood out – I wanted to move out of my home country and that environment, I wanted to have freedom and independence, I wanted to do work I love and to never have to work for anyone else.
Then, I also defined what I did want my life to look like. That was officially the first draft of my lifestyle design project.
After what seems like a million moments of self-doubt, feeling lonely and misunderstood, reading books and learning about the business model I was interested in, being scared and dealing with the opinion of others, I was finally out of the trap.
I created a whole new lifestyle. First came the business – I turned my passion for writing on topics I love into my career and began earning from it. That allowed me to feel more independent, save some money, and move to my favorite country. From then on, other beautiful changes happened because I was willing to work even harder to keep what I’ve created and grow it.
Have any specific books/podcasts/videos/social media accounts/people had a significant impact on you and your outlook on life? If so, what would you share with others?
The people I was inspired by when I first started my transformation were Tim Ferriss (and his podcast and book The 4-Hour Workweek), Gary Vaynerchuk, Mark Manson (I’ve been reading his blog since around 2013), Pat Flynn (and his blog and podcast Smart Passive Income) and many other lifestyle designers and entrepreneurs.
Now, things are a bit different and I’m more inspired by women who I see as role models. That’s Brooke Castillo (her amazing podcast is The Life Coach School Podcast), Natalie Bacon, Amy Porterfield (her podcast is Online Marketing Made Easy), Jenna Kutcher (of the Goal Digger Podcast), Kathrin Zenkina of ManifestationBabe.com, and more.
In terms of books, the last life-changing book I read was ‘Breaking The Habit of Being Yourself’ by Joe Dispenza. And if there’s one thing you’ll take away from this interview, let it be this book. Go read it 🙂
Tell me a bit about your story– what is a part of your story (or your identity) that has most shaped you as a person?
I come from a small country in Eastern Europe – Bulgaria. I had a passion for personal development, which I combined with the best way to express myself – writing.
So I started my blog Let’s Reach Success as a side project, it was my most favorite thing to publish content there. I didn’t know anything about blogging though. During that time, I started freelancing for clients and writing articles for them. That’s how I earned my first income online. Later I began monetizing the blog too and that provided me with the chance to be self-employed, independent and move anywhere. So I took the leap and moved to the Netherlands 4 years ago.
Since then I’ve grown the business and replaced freelance writing with full-time blogging. Now my most favorite thing is creating courses and helping others start a business so they can use that income to live their best life.
The part of my story that shapes me as a person is the fact that I didn’t give up and that I never stopped looking for ways to grow.
What are you hoping readers will take away from what you have to share?
You can do anything you want with your life, you have the potential to become whoever you want to be, your future is in your hands, and you can build your dream business and dream lifestyle at the same time.
Do you have a business/project/website/social media account/etc. that you’d like to share? Please share your links below so that I can share them with my readers!
Lidiya has so many great resources about starting a blog, building an online business, and using both to build your dream life. She’s the best of the best — super passionate and knowledgeable, genuinely cares about helping others, and a great story teller.
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